Hey wonderful and blessed people! I know it’s been about a week since I’ve last blogged, it’s just been so crazy busy this last week! Making so many moves and accomplishing so many goals! This weekend is about to be even MORE busy! Saturday I have this test to take at 8am at a college in my area, then RIGHT after that is the Faith Seminar at my church from 11am-1pm, then after that I work a double (2pm-1am – Painting/cleaning at my grandparents house then I work downtown). Can you say, double the energy drinks!?!?!! Haha I will definitely be needing it this weekend, that is for SURE! Looking forward to my rest on SUNDAY because MAN! I will be knocked out all day lol.
But you know what guys? God told me things would not slow down any time soon. He told me I would need to push myself beyond what I thought I was even capable of. The times when I feel like I am too weak to go on, I just remember: “God is strongest when I am at my weakest” and I just keep my eyes on Jesus and it gets me through the day. He gives me all of the strength that I need! All I need is Him y’all!
Today’s topic: Expectations.
Let’s define expectations, shall we?
From Wikipedia: In the case of uncertainty, expectation is what is considered the most likely to happen. An expectation, which is a belief that is centered on the future, may or may not be realistic. A less advantageous result gives rise to the emotion of disappointment. If something happens that is not at all expected it is a surprise. An expectation about the behavior or performance of another person, expressed to that person, may have the nature of a strong request, or an order.
Pretty much covers my whole entire point of this blog post! LOL! Seriously though, 9 times out of 10, people’s expectations of others are VERY unrealistic and when they find out in the end that the person they expected something from doesn’t do what they EXPECTED the other person to do, the person gets disappointed or upset! How unhealthy is THAT!
I’ve learned, personally, that you can’t have expectations with anyone. Something I had to grasp YEARS after I went through torment, disappointment, anger, unforgiveness, bitterness… All that yucky stuff that we do NOT want!
Yes I do believe you should have boundaries set in place. However! Do NOT EXPECT someone to act a certain way. That is very unrealistic and damaging not only to YOU but your relationships with others. Definitely NOT cool! It will only leave you feeling frustrated and I know you do not want that, at all. If someone crosses a boundary, let them know, but with respect and kindness only, not through anger or disrespect.
I’ve learned expectations are of the devil. Unrealistic expectations. Boundaries/Expectations, they are both VERY different. Boundaries = Let’s others know what you WILL and WILL NOT tolerate in a friendship/relationship. Expectations = Expecting someone to act a certain way and do a certain thing and then getting disappointed when they don’t act the way you want or expect them to, which then leads to anger, frustration and resentment! Very deadly, people!
Personally, I say don’t have expectations, only have boundaries instead. And please, do not be unrealistic about your boundaries, because that is just as bad as having unrealistic expectations.
Thank you guys, so much, for taking the time out to read this! It truly means a lot to me! Love you all and God Bless! I will be posting another blog post in an hour or two, so be ready! Also will be posting a video on my YouTube page (xOdancinqqueenOx) talking about what are realistic expectations and boundaries, so definitely stay tuned to that as well!
Thank you all!
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