Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment. (Proverbs 18:1 ESV)
When I first read this verse, I was IMMEDIATELY convicted. Like wow. Here I used to be this girl that kept EVERYTHING to herself; all of her problems, her secrets, her life, her hidden hurts, her emotions, her joy… Everything! I used to be so afraid of people getting close to me that when I noticed they were starting to break my shell, I immediately shut down. I pulled away. If I even SENSED that you were getting to know me, I would switch things up and claim “You don’t know me though”.
“Oh, but that’s just your personality! Don’t let anyone talk you into changing yourself! If you want to stay closed off, stay closed off!”
When I read that verse, I immediately felt a difference in me. I changed my thinking from “this person is just going to judge me” to “I don’t care what they think or say. If they judge me or hurt me, oh well, that’s on them”. See, I’m only responsible for MY actions, not the next persons. While I’m Holy Spirit led in all that I do, I can’t control what another person does with what I tell them.
Isolation is selfish.
God moved on my heart that day that I read that verse. He told me that what I was doing, was selfish. Fear is selfish. Isolation is selfish. I was being self-centered in not being transparent and open with those around me. If we are isolated and are only chasing after selfish goals and dreams, how can we glorify God? Jesus was completely transparent with us and He not once isolated Himself around the people that flocked to Him (there’s a huge difference between isolation and just pulling away for a bit to spend time with God).
This verse really challenged me to be intentional about sharing things with others and actually forming bonds with people. Although it pushes me completely out of my comfort zone, it can’t compare to the lasting memories and glorious times in Christ that will soon follow suit.
“Some things are meant to be private, though.”
And you are absolutely correct! I’m not saying that you have to share EVERY LAST DETAIL of your life, that’s where personal conviction and being Holy Spirit led comes in, especially when it comes to social media. I’m not saying to post all your business up on social media, or to give out your address to a random person. I mean, unless God tells you to. But what I’m saying is, be open and transparent with people. Share your darkest secrets and weaknesses if the Holy Spirit leads. I don’t care if it’s out your comfort zone, God cares more about your spiritual growth, than He does about you being COMFORTABLE.
Remember, no growth or opportunities come out of comfort zones.
Your story could truly bless someone.
So, share it!
1 Some people like to do things their own way, and they get upset when people give them advice. (Proverbs 18:1 ERV)
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