The Comparison Trap.

Comparison Trap.

Hey guys! I know I haven’t posted a decent post in awhile lol. I’ve just been so…. busy. I like to say busy is not a good word. To me, it means distracted. Productive is a much better word. Anyways! LOL! That’s not the point of my post.

Have you ever caught yourself comparing what you have, are and want to be to what another person is and has? Yeah, me too. It’s probably one of the most dangerous things you can catch yourself in. Let’s define compare:

Compare | VERB | – Estimate, measure, or note the similarity or dissimilarity between. Point out the resemblances to; liken to. Draw an analogy between one thing and (another) for the purposes of explanation or clarification.

Let’s also note the usage of the word COMPARE: Traditionally, compare to is used when similarities are noted in dissimilar things: shall I compare thee to a summer’s day? To COMPARE WITH is to look for either differences or similarities, usually in similar things: compare the candidate’s claims with his actual performance. In practice, however, the distinction is RARELY maintained.

As we see in the last part of the usage definition, we see that comparing is rarely maintained. So, if you compare yourself to someone and want what they have, don’t be surprised that you will wear yourself out. God made you UNIQUELY you for a reason! Start LOVING yourself! You can’t properly love and serve others when you’re so busy comparing yourself to others and envying what they have, that you don’t even see the value in loving YOURSELF.

Let’s check out the BIBLICAL definition of ENVY:

Envy | MOUNCE GREEK DICTIONARY | PHTHONOS | envy, jealously, spite, Mt. 27:18; Mk. 15:10; Rom. 1:29; Gal. 5:21; Phil 1:15; 1 Tim. 6:4; Tit. 3:3; Jas. 4:5; 1 Peter 2:1*

Here is the verse that I got the word ENVY from:

For we ourselves were once foolish, disobedient, led astray, slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in malice and ENVY, hated by others and hating one another. (Titus 3:3 ESV)

I don’t know about you all, but jealousy, envy and comparison is an UGLY trait to have. Thank God, for repentance, forgiveness and the blood of Jesus, our sweet King, Lord and Savior! We don’t have to BE THAT WAY! By the power of the sweet Holy Spirit, we can be free from the COMPARISON TRAP! We no longer HAVE to live in that bondage any longer!

Comparing yourself to others and envying what they have can make you depressed, angry, bitter and whatever else. Trust me, I know this from experience because I used to be there. It caused me to be quite judgmental, but I was the one that steadily claimed that she was the least judgmental person. I would be that girl that would say “Oh, I’m holier than him and I’m holier than her. Oh, look at her! she is wearing them ugly shoes/socks! What in the world is wrong with her!” That, my friends, is comparison and judgment at its finest. While I do believe that a proclaimed Christian should live a holy lifestyle according to the Word of God, I have absolutely NO RIGHT to judge another person’s journey compared to mine. The only comparison stick we have is Jesus, the King, Lord, Savior and Messiah. That’s it. So take your eyes off of the next person and stay in your own lane.

Whew! I’m preaching to myself! Hahaha!

My point is: Don’t compare yourself with ANYONE! It will make you miserable and feel like you can never measure up to someone ELSE’S standard. Why be in that trap, sis? It’s NOT WORTH IT! God made you for who you are, where you are and for such a time as this for a REASON and a PURPOSE! Keep your eyes focused completely on Jesus and NEVER get distracted.

I love you guy and Jesus is crazy in love with YOU!

❤ Dancing Dreamss.


4 Comments Add yours

  1. tcheight says:

    I definitely agree. I also noticed that I would compare myself to others in a way that set unfair expectations on myself. As if the other person had it all together and my life was in shambles. But I learned that peace & joy are maintained by gratitude so its best to “stay in your own lane” like you said and focus on being content with what you have.

    1. Kay Marie says:

      I definitely agree with! So many times the enemy would try and distract me thinking someone else had it better than me and I was left with nothing, but come to find out, they too didn’t have it all together. None of us do. We all have something we’re going through, whether big or small. We just need to keep our eyes on Jesus and we won’t have time to get distracted. Thank you for your transparency 🙂 God bless you! ❤

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